Pointers on How to Prepare for Marriage
There are lots of things you can do today to make you truly ready for your future marriage. With or without a serious relationship, it matters not. The sooner you begin this preparation, the better.
Below are five steps that will put you on the right track:
Look into your habits.
Do you have habits that you think might annoy or hurt your future spouse? Maybe you like to leave your dirty laundry everywhere, or maybe you have problems managing your finances. If you’re unsure which habits need to be addressed, ask for honest feedback from those who are close to you. Allow them to be candid though, not fearing that you will be offended. Polish your conflict resolution style. While you’re single, you should take time to identify your style of resolving conflicts, and what you can do to fine-tune it. Try to recall the last two or three conflicts you’ve had to deal with. How did you handle them? Do you think you could have done anything differently?
Don’t be too hard on yourself.
Everybody has imperfections, including you, so learn to take yourself less seriously. Begin with those tiny little frustrations, like forgetting where you put your car keys or mispronouncing certain words over and over. Rather than be angry, laugh at the situation and get on with your day. Accepting yourself 100% is not only liberating but quite attractive too.
Seek ways to serve.
The best marriages are those in which spouses don’t hesitate to sacrifice for other. While your single, you can learn to develop a sense of servanthood. Look for opportunities to serve your community or your local church. This could be babysitting for a single mom for free, or driving an elderly neighbor to her doctor’s appointment. With servanthood being an everyday part of your life now, you will be prepared for it in marriage later on.
Have a friend inventory.
Finally, know that it’s important to have a support system that encourages you to become a good spouse later on. With a simple friendship inventory, you will know if you have such people in your life. Start by asking yourself three questions. One, do they value marriage? Two, do they respect people of the opposite gender? Three, are they brave enough to correct you when you’re wrong? They may not see themselves from this perspective. If you ask them to encourage you in specific areas of your life, they may be happy to oblige. Remember, choosing your friends is not a mistake. There’s nothing wrong with wanting to surround yourself with people who will help you become a better person.